How to Save Your Relationship

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How to Save Your Relationship

If you have landed on this page about how to save your relationship it means that you are already really in need of help and advice. I will be very soft and gentle with you, for you are easily hurt if you are concerned with saving your relationship. If it is the relationship of a friend you are concerned about, then please know that this friend is very sensitive and you need to be very delicate with her/him.

I am also going to be very clear because you are on the edge, and you might fall off if you make the wrong move.

If you want to save your relationship you must want to be totally you! You must be very true to yourself. By this I mean to say that self-deception—trying to see things differently from how they really are, including wistful thinking—can just push you over the edge.

The Importance of Honesty in Saving Your Relationship

Feel inside yourself if you are being totally honest. This also means you must be willing to see the truth. Do you want to save the relationship for personal reasons that are not based on love? Because if you do your partner will know this intuitively and it will not work. Yet if you feel that there is deep love between the two of you, but that there are other factors that put your relationship at stake, then it is worth fighting for.

Your Partner and the Relationship

Does your partner want to save the relationship? You don’t know? Here we have a very clear factor of what is going wrong in your relationship, namely a lack of communication.

At this point I would like to suggest that you write down everything that you feel there is between the two of you that is worth fighting for. Make a clear, detailed list. Do not just make a list in your mind – stop now and take the time to put pen to paper and make a proper list.

Now we haven’t forgotten there are problems with communication in this relationship; however, it is never too late to start communicating. So ask your partner literally: “Do you want to save our relationship?” Even if you are afraid, do this anyway. If you don’t know and you don’t ask you might not be able to begin salvaging your relationship.

We will suppose the partner answers with a yes. Then ask the partner what he/she sees as the problems in the relationship and write them down.

After this show your partner your positive list with the points worth fighting for. Ask your partner how he/she sees this. Ask also if he/she sees more positive factors.
Add these to the list after having agreed on them. Thank your partner for saying these lovely things, for obviously that is what they are.

A Suggestion That Can Save Your Relationship

Now make a promise that for one whole day you will only focus on the positive things you have in your relationship, whatever happens. Even if you feel irritated about something, you let it go. Just for one day. At the end of the day both of you sit down and make a list of what was difficult for you on that day, where you felt really angry, irritated or impatient. Also try to find out why. Talk about it.

If you want to continue this practice for another day and then another that is fine, the most important thing is to start communicating and making conscious your appreciation for each other.

This is the beginning of saving a relationship and building up a new one at the same time. It really works if both parties take it seriously. I wish you all the best!

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